It’s easy to be quick on the Slap Trigger. A business screws something up, you get mucked around, and then you seethe with annoyance. iplug offers the perfect release for all that pent-up frustration; log in and Slap the rotters! It’s instant, it’s cathartic and it’s convenient. We should all do it – like installing a blow-up punching-boss in the corner of the office.
But…
Let’s step back for a moment and be realistic. How many times in your life have you had to apologise for being too quick out of the blocks, even if only in your mind? You know the scenario; one of your co-workers is late to work and you have to shoulder the burden for a few hours, swearing at them under your breath… until you learn that they had to shoot away early that morning because their mother passed away.
Or you blame one of the kids for something and yell at them, only to discover later that it was actually your fault.
This happens to us all, and those who are quick off the mark often have to eat humble pie in order to restore a prior relationship. We sometimes say things we regret, we act on insufficient information, we make assumptions – it’s all part of being human.
But what happens when the target of your instant assumption of guilt is a total stranger? Like, for example, an employee of a business that you are dealing with? And what if you rush home, jump online to www.iplug.co.nz and give them a jolly good SLAP? All within minutes of the incident?
If it turns out that they weren’t at fault, or that mitigating circumstances meant they had no control over the situation, what have you done? At the very least you’ve been unjustly harsh and at worst you may have damaged a perfect reputation.
All of which offers up the suggestion that as with vacationing and lovemaking, it’s best to take your time; calm down and think about it first – before you Slap someone. It’s a given that you never shop when you’re hungry, and never negotiate when you’re angry. Take the time to cool off. Then if, after careful consideration (and after your blood pressure and heart rate have dropped) you still feel that the business deserves a Slap, so be it. Just be sure that it’s a rational and calm Slap, not a spur-of-the-moment, impulsive, back hand Slap.
And of course if they really do deserve a Slap, don’t be shy about telling them why – in detail.